That’s just it — to you and me, we see that the degree of racism he experienced was in the past, but People of Color — and Blacks in particular — see it every day, today.

Your heart and mine are in the right place, but for us Whites, it’s impossible to see things as Blacks see them every day. That’s why, even though it’s hard when we hear blanket accusations against Whites, we have to look past our knee-jerk reactions of “it’s racist to accuse all whites of…” and instead look at why so many Blacks feel this way, at why they perceive things as they do.

A long time ago, my wife and I were picking up a medically-fragile Foster child ( at the government office. I was outraged that a mother would just leave her child with the government, but my wife chastised me, telling me, “there is no blame”, that we can’t know what was happening in the mother’s life, and in her heart. We later found out that the baby had shaken baby syndrome (her boyfriend had shaken her) and that the state was giving her very little support, and she felt she had nowhere else to turn. The following Monday, she came to pick up her child.

The reason I mention that is to illustrate the lesson I learned, to not be so quick to judge. That’s also one of the main reasons why I felt I had to respond to your own response, for being too quick to judge has ruined many a life indeed.

But thank you for your kind response. We’re all trying to do the right thing, and sometimes it’s hard to realize that those we disagree with are themselves trying hard to do what they themselves to be the right thing.

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Retired Navy. Inveterate contrarian. If I haven’t done it, I’ve usually done something close.

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